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Attack Meritocracy, Reward Mediocrity

Posted in Thoughts of the Day, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on July 29, 2024| Leave a Comment »

Attack Meritocracy, Reward Mediocrity

Two categories of people who tend to be picked on are people who underperform the group and those who outperform the group. People who are bullied can be nice people, but they can also be people who would have been bullies themselves if circumstances had broken their way.

There are plenty of well-performing narcissists in the world, but it appears as though there are even more underperforming ones. But then, with narcissists even being perceived of as average is considered by them to be a form of bullying since it means they won’t be getting the praise and attention they covet.

Wokeism is basically a movement of narcissists, so one of its features is a preoccupation with making these underperforming narcissists into some kind of victim class. What I have been seeing is contests rigged in favor of narcissists from a woke-created victim class. It is clear the contest is unfair in the eyes of the non-woke audience and participants. The chosen “winner” is not the best and/or isn’t even qualified to participate. But their winning achieves a victory for the narcissistic woke movement. It gives the narcissist their narcissistic supply of attention and praise — something they feel they have been unjustly deprived of. It also gives them the credibility of being declared the winner by people with the power and authority to bequeath the recognition — even if it obviously isn’t true. Those same power people can even punish the people who object to the unfairness of the narcissist’s adoration bash and refuse to participate.

Yes, you can’t be allowed to refuse to participate. You certainly aren’t allowed to have a contest where one of their own can’t be declared by them to be the winner. And the reason they can’t be declared the winner is because they simply are not qualified to win. No, all eyes must be on the narcissist — even if they’re scornful eyes. And the narcissist must also be able to revel in the defeated look on the rightful winner’s face as the narcissist gets their revenge for their own mediocrity by stealing the winner’s reward for themselves.

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You Don’t Have the Right to Refuse to Have a Relationship with Certain People

Posted in Thoughts of the Day, tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on May 27, 2024| Leave a Comment »

One of the things I’ve noticed lately is that about the only people you can’t deny having a relationship with are psychopaths. If they want you or want what you have, that’s it apparently. And really, it’s counterintuitive but it seems as though the worse a person treats you, the more you’re obligated to relate to them. Part of it is people’s warped idea of the concept of forgiveness — which in this case is more like masochism. You can forgive people from afar. You don’t have to have or start a relationship with them. Not only are there a lot of unrepentant people in the world who have no intention of changing their behavior, who continue to feel entitled to having their will at other people’s expense and are all too willing to use violence or the threat of violence in order to have their way, there’s also the loss of trust and post-traumatic stress to consider. Sometimes the damage to a relationship is far too great to recover from.

But the sympathy rarely goes to the victim of abuse. The perpetrator is allowed to be angry. But as the victim, if you’re angry you’re the problem. You’re a worse person than the perpetrator because you won’t forgive — which really has been redefined by our society to be the same as reconcile. And if you have to be angry as a self-defense mechanism, people take for granted that you have other feelings, too. You are hurt; you are grieving; you possibly loved this person. You’re afraid.

But in a way it makes sense. Psychopaths and malignant narcissists would rather just be themselves without having to put on a show. They want to treat people however they please without those people running away from them. And what better way to get someone to keep taking their abuse than to convince them that they don’t have the right to reject them?

In the end, you’re not supposed to focus on how your abuser treats you but rather how they feel. And how they feel is apparently a justification for whatever they do.

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